Too old to be picked on? : The reality of adult bullying no one talks about

Are you well into your 30s, 40s, 50s and 60s (even!) and yet still being picked on? Being told to stay your lane, you’re nobody, a lil speck of nothingness..and..sometimes a lil threat..just to remind you that you’re nobody?

‘That is life’– but that does not mean it’s okay, and that you should sacrifice your dignity & respect just because. The internal impact is on you, emotionally or psychologically, sometimes spiritually too. Even more if you are a parent, spouse, daughter/son and need to keep being a well-functioning one. These bullies are typically closer than you think, stealth than obvious. You kind of sense it especially when you grew up in an environment where being picked upon is oh so normal.

Spousal bully does happen. When boundaries are blurred, a 1-sided expectation is typically imposed on an innocent, and empathic spouse.

In Islam and our contemporary realisation, relevant knowledge is empowering. It allows us to step outside the circle, think outside the box, and be able to peer inside and from the sideline. Not many people, unfortunately, are happy to see you at ease, happy and undisturbed.

Wake up already, as selfish souls like these do not care on the consequence of their actions. Its hard to stand up, when you’re constantly hammered down by negativity. But what you can start doing, though is to:

is realise that it is a problem
identify bullying behaviours
seek relevant knowledge
seek support from trusted ones

Realise that life is short. Bullies and toxic people do not deserve your anticipated ‘reaction’, so do not fall trap. Take control, set boundaries and face your fears.

To be continued..

missjewelz